Whether waiting for a work opportunity, a romantic relationship, a medical diagnosis, a new home, a restored relationship… it may seem like your life is on pause.
The waiting seasons in our lives are transitions from one position in life to
another or from one identity role to another.
But who are we in the in-between space?
This unknown status can induce feelings of fear, confusion, impatience,
anxiety, shame, and loss of identity or purpose.
Navigating the waiting seasons in life requires managing uncertainty and
stuckness while anticipating a desired outcome. Often, the result of whatever
we are waiting for will determine how we can move forward in life. Changes in
relationships, job security, health, and home environment impact our well-
being and how we feel about ourselves.
I recall many years of experiencing the ache of infertility. When I realised I
was only living my life in a 9-month timeframe, I knew something needed to
change. The key was to hold on to my belief that the outcome of motherhood was
achievable and learn to accept what was happening for me in the here and
now.
What can you do when it seems your life is on pause?
1) Acknowledge your feelings
Learn to be comfortable with the uncomfortable feelings of frustration, anxiety,
and concern. They are normal emotions when feeling stuck in a transitional
phase of life. Ask for support from people you trust, to be reassured that your
current situation does not reflect your self-worth.
2) Stay in the flow of opportunities.
Focus on actions you can take to prepare for the desired outcome, and be
open to options you haven’t considered to improve your current situation.
3) Ensure self-care is a priority
Involve yourself in activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul – fun
adventures, exercise, spiritual practices, new hobbies, spending time with
people/pets, and in nature.
4) Maintain a positive mindset
Our thoughts will influence how we manage the unknown timeframe of
waiting. I recently read an affirmation, “Good things are coming my way.”
Regularly telling yourself this will create movement in your thinking,
and shift your perspective about your situation.
Sitting in life’s waiting room is not passive, it is an active state of
being.
Trish
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