Don’t believe everything you think. Sometimes we harbour negative thoughts or beliefs that limit us from achieving what we want to be, do, or have. Putting negative thoughts on trial allows us to examine the evidence for or against that thought and then come up with a verdict based on fact. Let’s begin... You may be thinking: “I am failing as a parent /romantic partner/ business owner/ sports team member/______ ( you fill the blank with a negative thought you have) 1) Gather evidence for this thought to be true. Why do I believe this negative thought is true? You will likely have a list of supporting circumstantial evidence and witness testimonies.
2) Gather evidence for this thought not being true.
Are you a failure all the time, or are you feeling like you’re failing in some situations that you would like to improve?
There will always be supporting evidence of times you have felt like a success in the role.
3) It’s time to be the judge.
Given all the evidence, what do you think of your original thought, now? The verdict could be, ‘Sometimes I will fail in my current role as ________ but that does not define me as a failure.’
We may doubt our ability to fulfill important roles in life, but our negative thoughts would not convince a jury or judge ‘beyond reasonable doubt’ of inadequacy in being capable of the role. A thought is just a thought - and we are always only one decision away from choosing a different thought. Trish https://www.facebook.com/lifecoachingwithTrish/
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